Making the vote more accessible

By Steph Ryde

The right to vote has always been something that I have taken for granted. As a non-disabled, white, cis woman I have never had an issue requesting or casting my ballot.  So I admit that I was shocked and surprised as I researched disabled access to the vote: how is it that in 2016, 137 polling places were reported as having an impediment restricting people with disabilities from voting?

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Chairs’ Corner: An activist to-do list for working women

Dear Members,

As we turn our focus to “Women and the Economy” this month, we recognize the contributions and achievements of all working women: not just women working in the paid labor force, but also women doing unpaid work that plays a vital, if undervalued, role in our economy.

We also recognize the challenges facing working women and commit to doing our part to address them. Following are 4 things you can do this month to support working women, whether their workplace is the home or the C-suite:

  1. Attend our October 16 meeting on Women and the Economy. Led by WC members Jihann Pedersen and Wen-Wen Lindroth, this event will explore the benefits of women’s full participation in the economy. Guest speaker Mitesh Sheth will discuss his successful strategy for closing the gender pay gap at his investment firm, highlighting the importance of diversity, inclusivity and sustainable work culture. We’ll close the meeting with an overview of setbacks to working women under the Trump administration and what we can do to fight back. RSVP now for this can’t-miss event!
  2. Join the “Activists Who Lunch.” Back by popular demand, our next “Activists Who Lunch” meeting will be held October 25 in central London. These lunch-hour meetings bring our members together to discuss politics, current events and activist activities in an informal setting. The brainchild of WC founder Carol Moore, these daytime gatherings are intended to make the WC more inclusive of moms and other members who may be unable to make our evening events. To RSVP for our next lunch on October 25, please send an email to events@womenscaucus.co.uk.
  3. Support the Equal Rights Amendment (ERA). The erosion of protections for working women under the Trump administration has underlined the importance of the ERA, which would write gender equality into the Constitution. If Dems manage to flip just one seat in Virginia’s House of Delegates in the November 5 state elections, Virginia could become the 38th state to ratify the ERA, paving the way for the amendment to become law. Having written hundreds of postcards to Virginia voters in partnership with our Global Women’s Caucus colleagues and VAratifyERA, now is the time to start making calls and sending texts. To join VAratifyERA’s phone banking and texting campaign, click here. To learn more about the ERA and why it matters, watch this fun and informative clip from Last Week Tonight with John Oliver.
  4. Support the Pregnant Workers Fairness Act. Earlier this week, Elizabeth Warren was in the news because a conservative publication “proved” her story about being fired for getting pregnant while she was a teacher was untrue — because the school didn’t write, “Fired for getting pregnant” in its records. But as we all know, this is exactly how pregnancy discrimination works. Call on your representative to co-sponsor H.R. 2694, the Pregnant Workers Fairness Act, and help put an end to discrimination against pregnant workers.

On behalf of the DAUK Women’s Caucus, thanks for helping us do the hard work of democracy, on top of your regular work, wherever your place of work may be. Hope you’re all having a great fall and we look forward to seeing you at an event in the very near future!

Best wishes,

Meghan, Steph and Eva   

Financial Literacy: Tips from our members

It has been well documented that women’s financial literacy is on average lower than mens. Alongside on average making less money than men, having longer employment gaps, and traditionally feminine skills being systematically de-valued, this gap in financial literacy –understanding and education around personal finances and money management – significantly contributes to gender-based financial inequity. A consequence of social conditioning, this exacerbates differentially gendered behaviours associated with risk, security and plain old financial know-how. We asked the Women’s Caucus – what are your top tips for improving your financial literacy or taking control of your personal finances?

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Planned Parenthood cuts through the noise: Takeaways from our September Webinar

by Courtney Plummer and Sadie Kempner

 Last month we participated in a riveting webinar with Jenny Lawson, Vice President of Organizing, Engagement, and Campaigns at Planned Parenthood Action Fund & Planned Parenthood Votes. Here is what we learned from Jenny, leading into the 2020 elections.

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Chair’s Corner – September 2019

On the heels of Labor Day, we recognize the contributions of working women and men to our nation, economy and way of life. And we commit to getting back to work: not just because the summer holidays are over, but because democracy takes work — and it’s up to all of us to keep at it.

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Caught in the Act: How the WC is making a difference — and how you can too

Here in the UK and back home in the States, summer days were hardly lazy for the Women’s Caucus! Find out what our members have been up to and how you, too, can get caught in the act(ivism)!

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Review: Strangers in Their Own Land

By Steph Ryde

Last month, the DAUK Women’s Caucus Book Club met in the Waterstones Cafe in Piccadilly to discuss Arlie Russell Hochschild’s Strangers in Their Own Land

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Chair’s Corner – August 2019

As some of you may know, I am from El Paso and still in shock from the recent events. When my boyfriend told me that there was a shooting there and to call my family right away, I hesitated. A shooting? In El Paso? Texas? Really? What?!

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What’s Your Form of Activism?

How do you start becoming politically active?  Women’s Caucus Members share their journeys and invite you to share yours!

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Be a Humanitarian: Notice Your Privilege with Social GGGRRAAACCCEEESSS

Be a Humanitarian

Tips by Laura Donohue

No, my cat didn’t just roll around on my keyboard (although he does do that sometimes). It’s a real acronym and it’s packed with information! 

Social GGGRRAAACCCEEESSS is a shorthand way to recognize the diversity and difference that exists in our lives. Each letter stands for a different aspect of our identity. Some of these identities can be visible or invisible. To be competent, socially aware, and sensitive activists, it’s imperative that we take into account the impact that our identity can have on others, and vice versa.

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Amazing American Women

In honor of Independence Day last month, we asked you to tell us about American women who inspire you. You came back to us with some truly amazing ladies who’ve made their mark on everything from government and civil rights to medicine and sports. Is this your first time hearing some of these names? Don’t worry, you’re not alone — when we discussed them at our July social, many of us were shocked by how few we’d heard of before. Clearly, American “her-story” still has a long way to go. But there’s no question that the stories of our foremothers deserve to be told and celebrated, and we hope you’ll enjoy learning about these homegrown Wonder Women as much as we did!

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Chair’s Corner – July 2019

Happy Fourth of July! The weather has been lovely from the start of July which makes outdoor picnics and bbqs a perfect way to celebrate our nation’s independence. 

It is also a great time to reflect on the present state of our country and if the actions of our government are in line with our values as citizens of the United States.

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Amazing American Women Picnic

Join us at our July 2017 Social Meeting where we’ll be having a picnic at Hyde Park at 6:30 pm.

We’ll provide a few drinks and snacks; share the solidarity by also bringing more to mingle with fellow members. Remember to also bring a blanket and most importantly your favorite American Woman!

What do we mean?

July is the month where we celebrate our nation’s independence, a time to remember what our forefathers fought for, but what about our foremothers?

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Women: Missing in Action from the 4th of July Speech

By Carol Graham

Carol Graham gives an honest critique of the President’s 4th of July speech and how women, particularly women in the military and Native Women, were excluded.

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Dr. Jennifer Merchant’s Talk: “The Criminalization of Women’s Bodies”

By Carol Moore

DAUKWC member Carol Moore gives a recap of the informative and thought provoking talk by Dr. Jennifer Merchant about how women’s rights are being impacted by the current political climate and how we can become active in ensuring those rights are preserved.

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Member Spotlight: Sadie Kempner

We recently appointed two members to be Co-chairs of the Communications Committee for the Women’s Caucus. We chatted with one of the new Communications Co-Chairs, Sadie, about about her feminist role models, why she joined the Women’s Caucus and what she always brings back from the US. Here’s what she had to say.

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Why We Must Keep Talking About Sexual and Reproductive Justice in Pride Month

by Sadie Kempner 

The DAUK Women’s Caucus are passionately committed to the sexual and reproductive rights under attack from the present administration. If you’ve been reading the news or screaming into the void that is social media, you’ll know how important these rights are for straight cisgender women. But straight cisgender women are by no means the only group whose reproductive rights are on the line here. The LGBTQ+ community also faces alarming sexual and reproductive injustice and needs to be part of the conversation. 

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The Heartbeat Bill and Why It Matters

by Courtney Plummer 

A ‘heartbeat bill’ proposes to ban all abortions once a doctor can detect a ‘heartbeat’ in the womb.  This detection usually happens around six weeks of pregnancy, before many women realize they are pregnant. The heartbeat bill has gained considerable momentum in the US as conservative state legislatures are trying to challenge the issue with the Supreme Court and ultimately secure a reversal of Roe V. Wade.  Many state legislatures have passed this bill and are also introducing a ‘trigger bill’, a bill that would automatically ban abortion once federal law is reversed.  

Here is a current but not complete round-up of where the heartbeat bill stands in various states at the time of publication. 

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Our WC Members Activism Back at Home

WC Leader Sylvia Squire is in the states doing an amazing difference back home. She shared with us as she’d love for you to read what she’s up to! If you are back home and being democratically active let us know as well at comms@womenscaucus.co.uk.

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Top Tips for Greener Living

Little choices we make every day can make a big difference for the planet. Here our members share what they do, tips and ideas for reducing waste, lowering carbon footprint and staying informed about environmental issues. Have your own ideas for helping the planet? We’d love to hear about them in the comments and/or Instagram Challenge.

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Renew, reuse, recycle: A look back at environmental learnings

If 2018 was the year of the Blue Wave, 2019 is the year of the Green Wave, with the environment topping the list of progressive voter concerns as it becomes a defining issue for Democratic lawmakers.

At our meeting later this month, we’ll be taking a look at the Green New Deal and other ideas and policies that have emerged in both the public and private sector to address climate change, protect the environment and ensure a sustainable future. But in the meantime — and in the spirit of recycling — it’s worth taking a look back at some of our rich and thought-provoking resources from last year, when Women’s Caucus members turned out in record numbers to learn, share experiences and take action on the environment.

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Member Spotlight: Abigail Smith

In honor of Earth Day, WC member Abigail Smith will be leading our April 29 meeting on the environment. This month we chatted with her about why she’s a Democrat, what she’s reading and what she always brings back from the US. Here’s what she had to say.

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Chairs’ Corner: In Like A Lioness

With the start of Women’s History Month, March has come in like a lioness at the Women’s Caucus — but shows no signs of going out like a lamb!

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Stacey Abrams Wants You to Help Put Up a ‘Fair Fight’

The indomitable Stacey Abrams made London a stop on her crusade to end voter suppression last week, calling on US citizens abroad to help her put up a ‘Fair Fight’.

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Member Spotlight: Wen-Wen Lindroth

Our new Member Spotlight series celebrates the diverse and dedicated members of the Women’s Caucus! This month we chatted with Wen-Wen Lindroth, an investment strategist and mom who just might run for president one day.

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Solving Four Centuries of Institutional Racism in Twenty-Eight Days

by Ariadne Schulz

Each February, during Black History Month, my black friends report getting the same, cringeworthy question: “When’s White History Month?”

The answer to that question is that every month is White History Month — because part of institutional racism is erasure.

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ICYMI: The Transformation of the Asian-American Vote

by Wen-Wen Lindroth

Last month, WC member Wen-Wen Lindroth and the DAUK Policy Network & Resolutions Committee organized a fascinating event on shifts in Asian-American identity and voting patterns with Prof. Catherine Liu.

On Monday, March 25th, Dr. Catherine Liu, Professor of Film and Media Studies at UC Irvine, spoke to DAUK about the evolution and current state of the Asian American electorate. Hosted by the PNR identities policy group, Prof. Liu presented her forthcoming paper: “Class AND Race: Asian Americans by the Numbers: The Political Transformation of an American Demographic.”

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Say Yes to Asking for Consent: A Terrace House Story

by Laura Donahue

Whether if it’s to give someone a hug, kiss, or simply if you can pet their cat, asking for consent is always important. A lot of people worry it’ll ruin the moment or that it’s unattractive. But you know what’s worse? Crossing someone’s boundaries and making them feel like crap.

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Fifty Shades of Feminism

Feminism — it’s a word that both unites and divides; inspires and instigates. It’s an ideology that some embrace, some reject and others are still trying on for size. It’s something that’s meant different things to different people at different times, so we wanted to know: what does feminism mean to you? Here’s our members had to say:

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It’s still our ERA!

by Carol Moore

Last month, Virginia came close to becoming the 38th state to ratify the Equal Rights Amendment (ERA), which would guarantee gender equality under the law. Disappointingly (if unsurprisingly), four Republican legislators stopped a bill, approved in Virginia’s State Senate, from passing out of committee to a vote on the House floor.  

In addition, bills have been introduced in 11 of the 13 state legislatures that have not yet ratified the ERA.

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The March That Meant Much More

bJoining the Women’s March, held in London on January 19, was more than an exciting experience. It signified the coming together of diverse voices seeking the same progress and I count myself fortunate to be a part of this movement.

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DNC Chair Tom Perez Praises D.A. for Record Overseas Turnout in Midterms

by Meghan Feeks

‘When we have unity of purpose, that’s how we win’

In an upbeat address in London last week, Democratic National Committee(DNC) Chairman Tom Perez saluted Democrats Abroad for mobilizing record numbers of overseas votersin the midterms, which saw a blue wave sweep the nation up and down the ballot.

But he also warned that “our democracy is still on fire,”and called upon overseas Democrats to continue being “first responders” in the fight for American values.

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Have You Heard About the Exciting News About the Equal Rights Amendment (ERA)?

CLICK HERE to add your support

IT’S BACK!!  VIRGINIA could be the state to get it over the finish line.

by Shari Temple – DA ERA Project Coordinator

For those of you who have not been following the progress of this amendment that failed to get through Congress in 1977, here’s a brief history: The Equal Rights Amendment (ERA) is a proposed amendment to the United States Constitution designed to guarantee equal legal rights for all American citizens regardless of sex; it seeks to end the legal distinctions between men and women in terms of divorce, property, employment and other matters including equal rights to be heard in courts of justice.

From 1971 to 1977, the amendment received 35 of the necessary 38 state ratifications. With wide, bipartisan support (including that of both major political parties, both houses of Congress, and Presidents Nixon, Ford, and Carter) the ERA seemed destined for ratification until Phyllis Schafly mobilized conservative women in opposition, arguing that the ERA would disadvantage housewives and cause women to be drafted into the military.

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Let’s get smart about healthcare reform: A nurse’s prescription

By Elizabeth Crocker, RN, MSc

I’m betting the farm that all of us believe that we control our own destiny. But how do we control our healthcare — how we access it, use it and benefit from it?

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Feminist Takeover at Miss America

By Carol Graham

During the 1992 presidential campaign I was shocked by the vitriol aimed at Hillary Clinton by other women. But when she fought back speaking candidly (and somewhat testily) regarding her decision  to pursue a career instead of ‘baking cookies’, the defense strategy of the Clinton campaign managers was equally shocking. Read More

5 Ways to Join the Fight for Women’s Health

By Meghan Feeks

With the endless stream of bad news for women’s health and reproductive rights these days, it’s easy to feel like you accidentally stumbled onto the set of The Handmaid’s Tale. Read More

DA Spain Leads International Mobilization against Trump’s Immigration Policy

Milan, 9 June 2018

On 26 May, news broke out of the US on the Trump Administration’s unprecedented “zero tolerance” policy, inhumanely detaining and separating immigrant children from their parents at the US border, sparking a wave of protests in at least 30 cities across the North American continent.

International protests and petitions quickly followed suit. Groups in London, Spain, Denmark, France, Switzerland, and Germany took swift action in solidarity with this movement. Spain was home to the first protests with overseas American citizens, holding demonstrations on 27 May and 1 June in Plaça Catalunya, Barcelona. London’s protest at the US Embassy occurred in solidarity with the Families Belong Together sister marches in the states on June 30th. Read More

Being an LGBTQ+ ally starts with the choices we make every day

In a brightly lit classroom, we sat in groups of four clutching handwritten index cards in our hands. Having learned a few basic things about our partners — their names, where they were from and their favorite color, for example — we were asked to introduce them to the group, using the unusual grammatical rules printed on our cards.

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Women Who Run: Katie Hogan, Organizing for Action

By Meghan Feeks

Women are running for office in record numbers this year, but campaigns aren’t the only things they’re running. Fueled by outrage with the Trump Administration and passion for progressive issues, women are also leading grassroots efforts around the country (and world!) to mobilize voters, organize communities and advocate for causes they care about.

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Because of Her

This month’s theme is close to the heart of our Co-Chair, Kate Van Dermark. Let her tell you why. Read More

She Should Run: Winner of May’s Member Spotlight

Last month, we asked DAUK Women’s Caucus members to tell us about their favorite woman who is (or should be!) running for office in the United States. This month’s winning submission is… Read More

Stacey vs. Stacey: The GA Gubernatorial Primaries

Women’s Caucus member Alyssa Blachez gives us a detailed look at the Georgia Democratic Gubernatorial primaries featuring the two Staceys: Abrams and Evans. Now that Stacey Abrams has won the primary, this presentation can be used as a resource to learn more about why you should support her candidacy and vote Democratic in Georgia in November 2018!

Georgia Gubernatorial Primary: A close look at the two Staceys

When women win elections, women win

By Meghan Feeks

The past month has been huge for Democratic women. Primaries in 20 states and a runoff in Texas have advanced women to the general election throughout the country, bringing the total number of female Democratic nominees for Senate, House and governor to 106 as of June 13 (Republicans have nominated another 27).

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LGTBQ+ Pride Series: Jason Jones Reception

On March 24, the LGBTQ+ Caucus launched its first Pride Month Series, a sequence of events marking the anniversary of the Stonewall Uprising and celebrating Pride, with a reception hosting Jason Jones, an inspiring LGBTQ activist from Trinidad and Tobago. Jones recently won an historic court case against his national government to overturn two colonial-era anti-LGBTQ laws that have been used for centuries to oppress the LGBTQ community.

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11 ways U.S. expats can help rock the midterms

By Meghan Feeks

It ain’t easy being “blue” these days, but things are definitely looking up. Special and state elections have brought Democrats to power in key states, and the latest polls have Democrats holding a double-digit lead over Republicans for the 2018 midterms. Read More

Chairs' Corner: In with the blue

It’s finally 2020 — the year we’ve all been waiting for. With the holidays behind us, it’s time to roll up our sleeves and do everything we can to make sure the new year is a blue year.

The festive period brought all too many reminders of why the 2020 elections are so important. With our president set to stand trial for high crimes and misdemeanors, the GOP-controlled Senate has vowed to block key witnesses and work “in full cooperation” with White House counsel, making a farce of our system of checks and balances.

In the last few days, the escalation of tensions with Iran have put President Trump’s wanton recklessness on full display, prompting fears that a third World War could be at hand. And as cataclysmic bushfires blaze in Australia during a season of record-high temperatures, we are reminded — yet again — of the perils of failing to address the climate crisis.

Women’s rights also came under fresh attack as more than 200 GOP lawmakers signed a brief urging the Supreme Court to overturn Roe v. Wade. Meanwhile, the shooting death of an Alabama woman at the hands of her estranged husband underscored the need to enact meaningful gun laws and restore the Violence Against Women Act (VAWA), which was allowed to expire on the Trump administration’s watch — and is likely to stay that way as long as Senate Republicans remain firmly in the pockets of the NRA.

These are just a handful of the reasons that the Women’s Caucus is going all in to do the single most important thing we can do in 2020 — for women, for America and for the world. And that’s getting out the vote: of the 9 million Americans who live abroad. Of the hundreds of thousands of US citizens whose votes are systematically suppressed. And of every eligible voter who believes our country can and must do better.

That’s why we’re kicking off the new year on January 15 with our “Happy Blue Year” event, co-hosted by the DAUK GOTV and Policy Network teams, which is all about getting out the vote. Whether you’re new to DAUK or a seasoned member, we highly encourage you to come to this event to learn the latest on voting from abroad, find out how you can participate in the Democratic primary in March and volunteer to support DAUK’s GOTV efforts in 2020. Space is limited, so be sure to reserve your free ticket today.

We also invite you to join us January 20 at our first Postcards & Pizza social of the year, where we will take action on women’s rights in solidarity with the Global Women’s Caucus and Women’s Marches around the world. Priorities will include calling on Congress to extend the deadline for passing the Equal Rights Amendment, restoring the VAWA and defending reproductive rights. For more information, please check out our Events page.

In February, in honor of Black History Month, we will continue our efforts to promote free and fair elections by turning our focus to voter suppression, an issue that disproportionately affects people of color. Watch this space and follow us on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter for activities and programming related to this timely and important topic. In the meantime, mark your calendar for a conference call with Stacey Abrams, founder of Fair Fight, who will discuss voter protection with Democrats Abroad on January 14 at 2pm BST. For call-in info, please RSVP here.

In closing, we have a lot of hard work to do this year, but with the energy, enthusiasm and dedication of volunteers like you, we have high hopes that we can make the new year a blue year. We look forward to seeing you at one of our upcoming events, and if you have questions or want to learn how you can put your time and talents to work in the meantime, please feel free to send an email to co-chairs@womenscaucus.co.uk.

With hope, solidarity and best wishes for a happy and healthy 2020,

Meghan & Steph

Co-chairs, DAUK Women’s Caucus

Chairs' Corner: This is what democracy looks like

What a year it’s been for the Women’s Caucus! 

It started with us channeling Rosie the Riveter at the Women’s March, saying “we can do it” to passing the Equal Rights Amendment (ERA). Then, we wrote thousands of postcards together with the Global Womens’ Caucus to help Democrats take both houses of the Virginia state legislature last month. Now, Eileen Filler-Corn — the first woman majority leader of the Virginia House of Delegates — has announced that ratifying the ERA will be a top priority when the new state legislative session opens in the new year. 

In addition, we took action on a variety of other issues, including gun control and Title X, all while learning from our brilliant, fellow WC members on topics ranging from the environment and reproductive rights to disability and workplace equality. 

Learning and acting. Organizing and taking a stand. This is what democracy looks like. And we are so proud of our members for giving it a face.

As we head into the election year, we plan to kick our activist efforts up a notch, starting with our January 15 “Happy Blue Year” event that we’re co-hosting with DAUK’s GOTV and Policy Network & Resolutions Committees. Whether you’re new to DAUK or a long-time member, we highly encourage you to come to this event to learn the latest on voting from abroad, find out how you can participate in the Democratic primary and volunteer to support DAUK’s GOTV efforts in 2020. Space is limited for this highly anticipated event, so be sure to reserve your free ticket today!

In the meantime, we hope to see you at our holiday social this Wednesday, December 11, where we plan to toast a year of learning, activism and making a difference while getting our spirits up for the year to come. For more information, click here.

In closing, thanks to all of you for bringing your time, energy and talents to the WC over the past year. We wish you a happy and restful holiday season and look forward to working together in 2020 to make the new year a “blue” year!

Cheers,

Meghan & Steph

Co-Chairs, DAUK Women’s Caucus

Top 5 tips for being a good disability ally

By Steph Ryde


As allies, non-disabled individuals can use their privilege to amplify disabled people’s voices and activism. Becoming an ally can seem daunting and many people shy away from it as they are afraid of making a mistake. In truth, we all make mistakes as allies – holding yourself and others accountable when mistakes are pointed out to you is a crucial component of being an ally. To help you navigate the waters of ally-ship we have provided some tips to get you started.  

1. Be aware of your privilege.

Because society is designed to meet the needs of non-disabled people, there are many things that require more effort or thought for people with some kinds of disabilities for a wide range of reasons. Getting dressed, making lunch, using public transport, and communicating to others are all activities that for many people are dependent on energy and pain levels, degrees of mobility, or support from other people.  By being aware of your privilege and what you don’t have to do or think about on a daily basis you can start to consider what it would be like for someone without this privilege.

Try this. The next time you’re at an event be aware of how the activities that you engage in could be alienating to people with a range of disabilities and perhaps keeping them from being a part of the community.  Consider the spaces that you meet in and the activities that you do. Is there a way that these can be more inclusive? What about this space is disabling to people with a range of needs?

2. Don’t define people by their disabilities.

When speaking, mention the person first and only refer to the disability if necessary.  For example, instead of saying ‘my friend in a wheelchair, Chris, is coming to the party’ say ‘my friend Chris is coming to the party and she uses a wheelchair’ if that fact is relevant to preparations for the party, e.g. finding out if the venue is accessible.  Small changes in wording and phrasing can make a big difference when it comes to inclusivity.

3. Don’t label people with a disability as ‘inspiring’ just for living with their disability.  

Focus on the person and what they achieve as opposed to labelling them as inspiring for having a disability.  For example, my family friend Brian built a physiotherapy business from the ground up while raising two children and is one of the most kind and generous people I know.  He is inspiring because of who he not because is someone with quadriplegia.

4.  Don’t police people based on the facilities they do or don’t use or whether they use them consistently. 

Not all disabilities are visible.  Not all people who use a wheelchair need a wheelchair all the time. Some people who might not look disabled do need to use accessible bathrooms. Do not judge people for what they do or don’t use.

5. Practice accountability.  

What your impact is matters more than what your intention was.  Be aware of this and don’t be afraid to admit a mistake.  If you are working at being an ally you are likely to make mistakes from time to time.  When you receive feedback on errors take it onboard and use it to avoid making similar mistakes in the future.  

Being an ally doesn’t involve getting praise.  Being an ally is about using your privilege, your connections and your position to give others a platform.  It is not about you as the ally – it is about the people you are supporting. So do the rubbish jobs – hand out name badges, blow up balloons, be the driver so that you can set the people you are an ally for up for success. Being an ally may not always be easy.  When it gets tough avoid retreating back into privilege and lean into the discomfort. Being an ally can open up a new way of seeing the world.  It can open you up to new experiences and new friendships so don’t be afraid to get started.